Heregoes: I started to feel a little distant from my friends this past month or so, and while I know they understand that life moves fast, and we are all doing our best to keep up, something was still a little off. I did what I normally do when I feel that way, and sent a few texts, made a few phone calls, sent some e-mails... just wanted to extend a hello and let them know I was thinking about them. I also went to a few outings (birthdays, happy hours, movies, etc) I do what I can with the time I have, and that's the truth. I got a call from a friend the other day who was was feeling a little neglected, and to be honest it caused me a little heart ache. I, deep down, feel like I connect with friends and make it out as much as I can to a point that all parties are happy. Let's be honest, everyone who reads this knows I have a boyfriend... that I adore. I cannot wait to spend time with him, and rightfully so, he's the bomb.com and lets me be me. Enough said. So here's my dillema--
What constitutes as enough calls, texts, and get togethers with your gal pals to keep them feeling strong in your friendship?
Is there an equation that answers how much time per week should be spent with a friend congruent to your level of friendship, and dependent on how much $ you have, plus the remainder of time you have to spend with your family and boyfriend? See...it's hard.
With all that being said: I don't plan to lose any of the friends I have right now. They're in my life for a reason. I want them there... however; just as I understand that life happens quickly, and new love, new jobs, and new locations happen more often than not at this age--I also know that I am a great friend. When I am out, or on the phone, or texting: I give my all. I am always an open ear and heart, and I feel as time goes on it won't be so much the hours spent, but the quality in that time. I'm sorry today isn't as entertaining as might be expected... worry not-- the day is young...
Here's a little something to brighten everyone's day (and I've added a treat for my male contributor as well:
No such thing as too much or too little. If they're you're friends, they understand exactly what's going on& life does go on. Remember what you said, you're in each other's lives for a reason, it's not because you dislike one another. There are plenty of people who come in and out of our lives on a daily basis, the ones that you can just pick up a conversation with and be yourself around are the keepers. The ones who you don't need to start up with random chit chat about the daily goings on& where you can just enjoy one another's company are atop of my list. Ps. Guys abs don't really do it for me, seeing as I'm a dude, feel free to post some breasts or a nice round ass next time.
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