Stoop or Grow Up?

The older I get the more I realize that it takes a tougher, more disciplined person to be silent in moments of debate, argument, or even casual conversation...

But DAMN IT ALL.. .it is SO hard sometimes!

So... I've just given my two weeks notice to this company, we'll call it Job 1.I've chosen a different job over Job 1, even after Job 1 sought me out to come on full time, etc. My immediate supervisor was not happy about it. In fact it was written on her face and heard in her tone when I told her. All she said to me was "I have a lot of holes to fill now, and I'm happy for you... and that's all I'm gonna say." She said it in this tone like she was holding back, as if she wanted to tell me "How can you do this?" The reason I am going to the other job and the way I presented it to HR was done SO well.. and ultimately it's MY choice, right?

Yesterday I was 15 minutes late-- I really wanted to shower, and put makeup on. I am not forgoing cleanliness for punctuality: I called my immediate supervisor to let her know.

So let's fast forward to today... This morning I was running late-- that's pretty standard. I can be on time when I want to, but recently I've been refusing to rush getting ready and creating a bad start to my day... so I opt to be just a few minutes late to work, ha! This tardiness is is usually 3-5 minutes after 7:30am. I've made comments before about my tardiness to my supervisor and it's never been seen or spoken of as a big deal, as long as it's just a couple minutes here and there, which it has been.

So here I am, running behind because I wanted to look cute. I feel better when I look better. I am calculating in my head that I'll be 10 minutes late... then, just as I am in the middle of PYT by Michael Jackson and singing myself into the best day ever...  I get a text....................................... "R u on your way?" and it's my immediate supervisor from Job 1! F*CK.. seriously?? Why would you do that? To let me know that you know that I'm late... again. How about this? I don't care, and I think texting an employee when they're under 10 minutes late "R u on your way?" is really dumb and unprofessional. Let's be honest: I answer phones and work on projects... I am not running late for brain surgery or a liver transplant. This really fired me up. The text.. it all makes sense now right?? She's mad, or has a hang up because I am leaving, I'm late (probably thinks I am getting short timer's syndrome) and all she was trying to do was call me out. Plain and simple.

Is this all in my head? Who out there has been a supervisor? Would you text an employee who is under 10 minutes late? If they only had a week and some change left at your place of employment? And you know their work load, as you are the one that gives it to them, you know there isn't anything super time sensitive to be done??

Anyways, so I get to my desk after the text fiasco and rage has set in, and there's an e-mail from the girl who comes in at noon at Job 1 and relieves me when I got to Job 2. She's nice...

She smokes heavily on her way into work and then attempts to cover it up with a Victoria's Secret body splash-- bringing out the smell more and resulting in a really bad sense overload, but she's nice...

She was a little upset, I think, that I got offered the initial FT position (although I didn't see her exactly reaching for the stars...reaching for a carton of Malboros maybe, but not the stars..) so I turn down the job offer and she (through default) is now going to be full time. Gosh, I sound awful don't I?? I hope you all know this is for entertainment's sake too... ! Moving on: So I check my e-mail and she has written this to me:

Hey girl,

Just wanted to let you know if you wanted to take off a couple days early to your new job, you know I am here to cover. I know when you give your 2 weeks it seems to drag  by. 

WOW! Ok Cujo calm down.. I just put in my two weeks! I know you're ready to make some money, but c'mon... 

I'm not sure if she knows it's a little distasteful to leave earlier than your reported two weeks? Well, it doesn't surprise me, so anyways-- unbeknown to her I was already fit to be tied and replied:

It's normally not looked upon highly to leave earlier than your two weeks.

If anything changes; I'm sure Job 1 will be the first to let you know. 

 Yeah... ouch... and there's no recall... oh well. 

So this whole blog was really therapeutic for me, if you couldn't tell. And I promise though that these stories tie into the blog title and intro. 

I feel like my immediate supervisor stooped a little.. she might be a little upset that I've caused her some more work, or I don't know, but she stooped.

And in the case of Malboro lady, she was probably just trying to be nice, offered a helping hand, and maybe had a little agenda, but out of niceness nonetheless, and I basically acted superior to her... I needed to grow up in that instance.

Reacting the right way is so hard sometimes.. 

Will we ever get a grip on ourselves??